Thinking and rethinking

This blog has recently become the “pink elephant” in my mind.  I know it’s here, I know it needs attention, I just don’t know what to do with it.

Recently I have a better idea of what I want to write about. 

I like the “Father of the year” pieces, and would like to write some short short-stories with no purpose other than to entertain myself and hopefully the few readers I have left. 

Perhaps I’ll sprinkle in some life lessons, thoughts on being a 33 yr old married father of two, and some sex to keep the google searches up.

Cheers.

TC

Father of the year: on Coin Toss

Main Entry: prob·a·bil·i·ty
Pronunciation: \ˌprä-bə-ˈbi-lə-tē\
Function: noun
Inflected Form(s): plural prob·a·bil·i·ties
Date: 15th century
1 : the quality or state of being probable
2 : something (as an event or circumstance) that is probable
3 a (1) : the ratio of the number of outcomes in an exhaustive set of equally likely outcomes that produce a given event to the total number of possible outcomes (2) : the chance that a given event will occur b : a branch of mathematics concerned with the study of probabilities
4 : a logical relation between statements such that evidence confirming one confirms the other to some degree

Knowing that probability does exist; why is it that when I give my 3 yr old son his shoes… 100% of the time they end up on the wrong feet?

TC

 

Count down to 10: #7 I see London I see France

#7 brings me to an odd thing I have learned in my ten years of marriage.  I’ve learned to take advantage of my wife’s naked moments. 

I love seeing my wife naked. 

I love stealing a glance over the shower curtain when she asks me to bring her her face soap, or a towel. 

I love watching her change into her work clothes in the morning.

I love watching her get ready for a night out, or stripping down for a night in.

Her body has changed in 10 years, she fits it better, I can see she has a better sense of it, she looks amazing when naked.  I’ve learned to not take that for granted. 

TC

Count down to 10: # 8 Pain point will be the death of us

Find your marriage pain point and work on it together.

It could be Money, Sex, Kids, Parenting, Employment, Addictions, Ex Spouses or Family.  We all have some pain point that causes friction, and usually these pain points are the root of what drives a happy marriage towards a messy divorce.

What I have learned in ten years of marriage is to identify the issue and work through it.  Come to the discussion with the ability to see both sides, seek counseling if needed.  But don’t ignore it, don’t dance around it, and don’t think it will go away. 

Working through your pain point is not going to be an easy task, it may take years, if  not the entire life of the marriage, but keep at it.

TC

Story from my life: Color Blindness

A few days ago I was at my daughters dance class for “film” day.

This is the class where parents can film their girl doing their routine so they can practice at home before the recital

So during the class I was talking to the dad next to me, a black guy I had not met before.

At some point in the conversation I casually asked “So which girl is yours?”

At which point he looked at me, asked if I was serious and pointed toward the corner….where I saw the only black girl in the class standing against the wall.

We didn’t  really talk much after that.

You see people I don’t see color…or I’m an obliviot

TC

Count down to 10 # 9 I Don’t know who you are sometimes

My wife isn’t the same person I married 10 years ago.  Sometimes, she isn’t the same person I went to bed with the night before…But I love that. 

What I have learned in 10 years of marriage is that people change, and you better either (Train analogy coming up in 3..2..1) get on board, redirect the tracks, or watch that person pull away from the station without you.  (That analogy kicked ass)

And from 10 years of marriage I have learned that it is often a good idea to get on board with the changes…because it can make the next day different, and different has possibilities for better, and better is something (I Feel) we should strive for in our marriage.

When I say my wife is ever changes it doesn’t always mean life changing.

Some changes are big, like her belly when she swelled with child, others are temporary, like lightning her hair for the summer.  But these are all changes that have had an effect on our marriage at some point in ten years. 

And most of her changes have been positive whether I knew that going into them or not I can’t remember, but I’m glad I got on board.

A few of my favorite changes: (No particular order)

-She went from Marketing to Teaching:  (I knew it would mean less money and some tough times early, but this change has kicked ass all around for us.)

-Tattoo: When she hit 30 she got a Tattoo.  It’s sexy and not something I would ever have thought she would do just 10 years earlier, but she changed a little and tat resulted in a very meaningful (to her) sexy (to me) Tattoo

-Sushi: She hated it when we first met, now she loves it. simple but awesome change

Theses are just a few, she has to many to list, and I haven’t loved them all.

But what I have learned is change is just around the corner, how big, good, impactful is yet to be determined.

TC

Count down to 10: #10 Wins and losses

This May my gorgeous wife and I will celebrate Ten years of  marriage.

I know Ten will seem small for those well seasoned relationships, but Ten is milestone these days, and it’s something I am very proud of.  I have only my wife to thank, and hopefully she knows how much I have enjoyed, appreciated and respected her commitment to me. 

What I’ve learned in Ten years of marriage: #10

When it comes to arguments, don’t keep a win total.

Sometimes being right is wrong, especially if you’re always right.  Marriage isn’t baseball, there are no playoffs, so there should be no reason or shame in losing an argument, especially if your loss means a win for your spouse. 

It’s also important not to lose every argument too,  try to keep your win/loss total even.  It’s not always easy, but it’s important.

A happy spouse leads to a happy marriage.

Thank you LC, Thank you for everything.

TC

Father of the Year: On hope

A conversation with my 7 yr old while driving

Her: Dad did you know Gigi [in Colorado] is sick?

Me: I did

Her: She has breast cancer

Me: I know, your mom told me

Her: That’s why I wear my Beat-the-Hell-out-of- Breast-Cancer shirt all the time

Me: oh

Her: I hope it works

She’s a good kid.

TC

Starting now!

Great start to what I consider (I know it’s not the true start) the first days of spring.

Did some yard work on Sunday
-I need to finish it sometime this week

Fired up the grill
-Venison Steaks, Bratts, Ranch Style Beans, and Chips (if you were wondering)
–The Venison was a gift from a friend who likes to kill things.

Woke up at 5:15am and got in a workout
-Push-ups, crunches, and dips

Rangers and Cardinals are well on the way to Baseballs perfect seasons.

National Championship Basketball tonight.

I like where this season is headed.

TC

Just the Facts Ma’am

Fact: I’ve written and deleted three posts before settling on this one

Fact: I bought 5 lottery tickets today…wish me luck

Fact: I like to add “…” into my writting…but I’m pretty sure I’m using it incorrectly

Fact: When I dress well, I feel smarter, more in control, and believe women take a longer look than normal

Fact: I stop past the white line at intersections only when my wife is in the car…she hates that

Fact: I married up…but my wife is very lucky to have me

Fact: Having two kids is the reason I don’t want a third…But I couldn’t imagine life without either one

Fact: It fucking pisses me off when I want to read a story on CNN.com and I get a video

Fact: I use “fuck”,or a variation of, when I want to emphasize a point

Fact: I make what I’m worth, but I think my bosses are overpaid

Fact: I can’t seem to get through the new Dan Brown book without falling a sleep

Fact: I think I’m a good friend, but that my friends are better friends than I am.

Fact: Women are sexier in a t-shirt and panties then just naked

Fact: I sometimes lose my temper with my kids…and I hate myself for it

Fact: I have a good singing voice, especially when I sing to my kids

Fact: I set my alarm for 5:00am in hopes that I can get an earlier start on the day

Fact: Setting my alarm for 5:00am hoping to get an earlier start on the day has not worked

Fact: My wife has HOT friends

Fact: I have a problem with dairy

Fact: I don’t know the meaning of a lot of words I use

Fact: I have passed up sex because I recently masturbated

Fact: That’s the most honest thing I may have ever written

Fact: I would shave my head if my hair recedes 10% more

Fact: I have no idea how I would quantify 10% more hair loss

Fact: I once threw-up on myself while driving

Fact: I have a gut feeling that I will be diagnosed with some form of cancer

Fact: I don’t know when that will be, nor do I dwell on it

Fact: My sex life could be better

Fact: My sex life could be worse

Fact: I believe in a higher power

Fact: I don’t think organized religion has anything to offer me…but I’m not against it

Fact: I don’t feel any different today then I did when George W was president

Fact: I was disappointed the census wasn’t more probing into my life

Fact: I could kick the ass of 50% of the guys in the world, and get my ass kicked by the other 50%

Fact: I love it when my wife gets drunk,

Fact: My wife hates it when I get drunk

Fact: I look better in winter clothes than summer clothes

Fact: I have no interest in getting a tattoo

Fact: I miss getting high

Fact: I burn easily

Fact: I miss my previous job

Fact: I was underpaid at my previous job

Fact: I’m not a jealous person

Fact: I married the right person

Fact: There have been a few times I shouldn’t have driven home

Fact: I want to take my dad and my son on a trip to watch spring training baseball in Arizona

Fact: I was the first of my high school friends to get an earring…I stopped wearing it when everyone else started

Fact: I fainted in the middle of a high school play…on stage…the show did not go on.

Fact: I’ve made mistakes in my life, but nothing that I regret

Fact: I led my district in batting my senior year of high school: I was 3 for 4 with a double

Fact: When I have gone to strip clubs, I’m always more interested in the girls with the same body type as my wife

Fact: I don’t know if that’s a good or bad thing

Fact: I’m only attracted to Blondes, Brunettes and Red heads

Fact: I admire my friends more than they know

Fact: I’m driven by the fear of disappointing others rather than getting their approval

Fact: I couldn’t think of a word that was the opposite of disappointing

Fact: My family watches too much TV

Fact: I spend too much time on the internet

Fact: I’m fascinated by my Brother-in-Law’s choices

Fact: I’m running out of things to say

Fact: I would list snorkeling as a little known talent

Fact: I would really enjoy playing the guitar if I ever got around to practice/learning it

Fact: I can’t remember the last time I took a bath

Fact: I’ve held both of my children while they threw-up on me late at night

Fact: I had not intention of posting this when I started

Fact: I’ve spent too much time on this not to post

Fact: I’ve enjoyed this

TC