My wife isn’t the same person I married 10 years ago. Sometimes, she isn’t the same person I went to bed with the night before…But I love that.
What I have learned in 10 years of marriage is that people change, and you better either (Train analogy coming up in 3..2..1) get on board, redirect the tracks, or watch that person pull away from the station without you. (That analogy kicked ass)
And from 10 years of marriage I have learned that it is often a good idea to get on board with the changes…because it can make the next day different, and different has possibilities for better, and better is something (I Feel) we should strive for in our marriage.
When I say my wife is ever changes it doesn’t always mean life changing.
Some changes are big, like her belly when she swelled with child, others are temporary, like lightning her hair for the summer. But these are all changes that have had an effect on our marriage at some point in ten years.
And most of her changes have been positive whether I knew that going into them or not I can’t remember, but I’m glad I got on board.
A few of my favorite changes: (No particular order)
-She went from Marketing to Teaching: (I knew it would mean less money and some tough times early, but this change has kicked ass all around for us.)
-Tattoo: When she hit 30 she got a Tattoo. It’s sexy and not something I would ever have thought she would do just 10 years earlier, but she changed a little and tat resulted in a very meaningful (to her) sexy (to me) Tattoo
-Sushi: She hated it when we first met, now she loves it. simple but awesome change
Theses are just a few, she has to many to list, and I haven’t loved them all.
But what I have learned is change is just around the corner, how big, good, impactful is yet to be determined.